Stop Blaming The Stone And You Will Succeed In Moving Forward
The poet Sara Bueno published a post a few days ago which said: when you stop blaming the stone, you will learn to move forward. Do you care about this sentence? Something that happened to you may continue to spin around in your head, just like day one, and you may not know how to get out of the vicious cycle you find yourself in. It is as if all the forces around you are inexorably drawing you back to him.
In cases where something is wrong, the frightening shadow of guilt appears and two ways of reacting are then possible. On the one hand, with our own guilt: we make the weight of the consequences fall on ourselves. On the other hand, by shifting the responsibility to the outside, that is to say to other people or to the problem itself.
Even though we are going to talk about the latter approach, it is good to remember that no manifestation of guilt allows us to learn to walk and, just as important, to move forward.
Looking for culprits won’t help you
Life will never be as good as we would like it to be: there will always be things happening that we think are unfair, that we don’t think we deserve, and that we don’t expect. It is therefore for this reason that it is natural to understand that the feeling of guilt appears frequently.
“Almost all of the unhappiness in life comes from the tendency to lay the blame on someone. “
-Brian Tracy-
In fact, we can understand that when a stone appears in our path, we tend to curse it to prevent us from continuing, or we curse whoever placed it there. The attitude of blaming someone is simpler than looking beyond for a solution.
We waste time with the responsibility of the stone or its surface area instead of finding the method that teaches us to remove it. In other words, looking for culprits will not help you: it will not erase the harm already done and will only tighten the blindfold over your eyes.
Focus on the problem and get to the bottom of it
Even if you think there is a real culprit, this one also won’t show you the path you need to take so you don’t get stuck where you are. The most effective way to learn is not in the stone, but in how it landed there.
“The most important thing, in my opinion, is not to blame someone for a mistake but to take an interest in what caused the mistake. “
-Akio Morita-
Try to focus on what is happening to you, be brave to get to the heart of what hurts you, and you will come to know how to leave it behind. You are stronger than this stone and your life has the power to be much more intense than any obstacle that claims to limit it.
There is something behind it, and right now you can’t see it because you are surrounded by too many monsters chasing you and making you go back. Behind blaming someone is a truth you dare not acknowledge, but we have no other choice if you want to continue.
Breathe, you still have time
Let yourself be overwhelmed, open your eyes, release your emotional doubts: breathe, you still have time. This is just another stone, additional experience, part of learning.
Walking involves falls, some with proper names and some without: sometimes we fall because we had to learn something and maybe that was the only way it could happen. What is more, not all faces of obstacles are negative, they also have others that turn them into good teachers.
It is essential to collect the teaching of the stone and to avoid carrying its weight on the shoulders for a longer time, because such an expenditure of energy is not necessary. It is said that everything that you resist persists, and you don’t want to persist in continuous discomfort.
“We should not burden our thoughts with the weight of our shoes. “
-André Breton-
Ultimately, our shoes have lived a long time and all the progress made remains inscribed in their sole, but the heart has no place for everything: it needs a filter that lets in good things but which removes what only takes up space, uses up energy and does harm.
