It Is Forbidden To Sit And Wait For Life To Pass

If there’s anything we learn sooner or later, it’s that there’s no point in waiting for things to happen on their own.

To be happy, we have to make decisions and it is only when we are able to promote this magical change in us that those around us are also imbued with this famous harmonious movement.

One of the most famous writers in the history of literature is surely Anton Chekov.

This refined, critical and skilled pen in the emotional and psychological world reminds us, through its tales, that vulgar people are those who always expect good and evil from the outside, while the wise are those who await them from outside. ‘themselves.

When you stop waiting, your life will change. This is something that I have learned over time, because it is not enough to just desire.

A desire launched in the air of a starry night changes nothing, while a decision changes everything.

On the other hand, we also know that we are often forced to wait.

The teenager waits to be older, the adult aspires to have a good job and we wait every day for the metro or the bus to arrive home. We are still waiting for something.

But the art of waiting without despair also implies that during this time we can plant seeds, small actions, thoughts and initiatives which in themselves generate their own movement.

It is worth a try. Here we suggest you try.

When to wait seems to be the only option

We have often been educated in this culture of illusion and reward, where we believe that in life, as in fairy tales, there is always a happy ending.

We were told that you have to put up with frustration before you receive positive reinforcement, and we were also told, very quietly, that good people always have great things.

Yet as we swallow mouthfuls of reality, one after another, and fall into these “bear traps” of our life paths, we often come to the conclusion that we have not. no control over what is called life.

We think it’s best to wait, sit still, and plant our roots in our comfort zone as we set our eyes on the windows of life, watching for luck that might knock on our door.

Now, if good things happen to good people… Why do we only experience disappointing things? Are we an exception to the rule? Life doesn’t work that way …

Waiting should never be the only option in the troubles and voids of existence.

Now is the time to let go of what it feels like to think about what we really need.

The world is not all pink, but in reality it is neither black nor hostile. The reality is the color you want to give it.

When you stop waiting for life to change …

We tend to place the blame on those around us and on the people who would be responsible for our misfortune, because they would have cut the wings of our development and our opportunities.

With this thought pattern, what we are actually doing is feeding our minds with the land of evil to plant the seeds of suffering in it.

What you think influences your behavior and your emotions, but even if you know it, you cannot control this unbridled horse of fear.

“ If I stop making my partner guilty of my misfortune and leave him, I will be alone and that scares me”. “I prefer to wait for new job offers coming out in my village before moving to another city, because this change makes me insecure”.

Almost without knowing how, our minds turn into real washing machines in which we limit ourselves to seeing only what is not working instead of listening to what is going well. This is not good .

We have to take a turn in our cognitive style and understand that life does not wait, stop and not warn either. In fact, we are losing it. 

Strategies to generate change in our life

You should know that when it comes to happiness and the fulfillment of dreams, there is no magic formula.

Each of us is able to discover the equation that will work best according to our needs, our character and the circumstances.

However, there are some basic rules that can help us cross the fear line, to generate change and stop waiting. Here they are :

• We must not be afraid of error, of failure. Stopping waiting to be a little happier involves making decisions, and if one of them is not the right one, it won’t be the end of the world because we will discover the right decisions to make then.

• Whoever stops hoping and dares to act does not do so because he is convinced that everything is going to be okay. He does it because it is good, because stillness gets us nowhere. Conversely, movement in itself is already life. 

• Regulate your obsession with controlling everything around you, as well as anxiety. It is also a reflection of fear.

• Curb negative speech and “ruminant” thoughts full of fatalism. They are useless, recycle them.

Do not anticipate what may or may not happen, and limit yourself to opening your mind, because life is not a problem to be solved, it is a mystery that must be lived.