Family Ties Are Cultivated With Empathy And Respect
Raising and especially educating children is not an easy task as it can destroy family ties if not done properly. It takes tons of patience, tenderness and goodwill to build a healthy and responsible education, which contributes to the good development of children and the good maintenance of the couple.
In this task, other faculties are essential: knowing how to listen to our children, learning to put themselves in their place, to establish limits and to be able to transmit to them this feeling of belonging to a group. unique – that of the family – which will provide them with total security and protection. Although all of this is, of course, just as important with adults. Read on to find out how to take care of family ties and create strong connections!
Saying “I love you”: the basis of good family ties
In the family, everyone has their own needs as well as different qualities and abilities. This is why we don’t all express our affection in the same way or we don’t all need to hear that we are loved. Even if it is important to say it.
Sometimes it is difficult for us to make constructive criticism with adults but also with children and so we just point out what they have done wrong. The problem is that something that may go unnoticed by us can have serious consequences for the self-esteem of others, especially that of children. And this weakens family ties.
This is why it is important to use part of our communication to say that we love them and to express what we like about them. It is important to tell them that they are important to us and to our family. In this way, we will nourish them with love and their self-esteem will grow.
Strong family bonds are nourished by empathy and effort
Empathy is a great ally when conflicts arise at home. Trying to put ourselves in the other’s shoes will not end the argument instantly, but will help us understand them a bit more. Also, it will be easier for us to explain to him that we understand his point of view, even if we do not share it, and this will help to reach agreements that will be beneficial for all.
Putting ourselves in the shoes of others will facilitate another fundamental fact for strengthening family ties: valuing the efforts of others. When we try to change something or take action to improve the living together in the house, we don’t always succeed on the first try. Having others tell us that we are trying and that they appreciate it will motivate us to improve.
This recognition will work as a reinforcement that will strengthen those behaviors that help us improve relationships within the family. And the change will be gradual.
Paying attention to rights and duties strengthens family ties
Within the family home, all members have their own obligations. In this regard, it is important that they are delimited and consistent. But, when and how should we make children responsible for chores around the house? Here it is important to take the ages of the children into account and ask them to do things according to their abilities.
From the age of one, we can ask them to do simple tasks that help develop their self-esteem. They can put their toys away, help us carry an object from one place to another, or clean something they have soiled. Also, telling them very clearly that they help us a lot and that they are very important to the family will make them feel better.
Just as we have duties, we also have rights which must be respected within a home. The problem arises when, when setbacks arise, we give up these rights. It is important to know how to do this so that the cohabitation is ideal, but it is also essential that it is not always the same person who gives in.
In other words, one should not differentiate between the rights of one family member and those of another. Finding a balance, on this point, will prevent arguments from breaking out, misunderstandings arising or negative emotions that undermine family ties from setting in.
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