Give Me Wings To Fly And Reasons To Stay
You have to love the other in such a way that they feel free. Love is not a boat that has to drop anchor; you have to let it drift, but without letting go of the rudder.
Obviously, it is not easy, no one has said the opposite, but the effort deserves reward.
We must forget this idea of ​​consented slavery which subjects us, in the short term as in the long term. A relationship can first be based on love, and then collect the reasons for leaving.
Even if it is not easy, building a fulfilling and warm relationship depends on the time each one takes to weave their wings, wash them, take care of them, and fly away. In other words, there is no co-action; only freedom exists.
What if we don’t feel like flying?
Sometimes our wings get lazy and get used to the routine of married life.
We get used to the tranquility of the routine, and we relax, so that the routine becomes monotonous. As a result, we lose the habit of flying, and we forget how to go about getting there.
Other times our wings are injured, so flying hurts us. We have probably damaged them by chaining them, or else their desperate aerobatics has come up against our indifference.
There is no reason not to steal. The two members of a couple must support each other, pull each other upwards, rise into the sky, and thus be able to see the world from above.
The roots of the tree solidify it
Allowing our tree to take root does not mean that we have to control everything. Free and healthy relationships are dynamic and changing, and so are people.
To take root is to nourish and fuel our feelings, to breathe air into them and let them breathe. In this sense, confidence is very important, as is the balance that comes from taking care of our wings and making them merge with our roots.
In other words, if we want a strong and strong relationship, we have to let our wings fly in search of food that can keep us strong and healthy, in which case our roots will nowhere find the nutrients they need to live, and by therefore, love will die.
Balancing Our Relationships: Flying By Collecting Reasons To Stay
To balance our relationships, we have to collect reasons to stay. But beware ; collecting and accumulating things in an attic are not the same thing.
Collecting reasons to stay means taking care of every moment by helping to maintain love, every smile and every gesture.
The tree metaphor helps us understand how important it is for us to take care of the little details, and to remember that by tying ourselves up we lose sight of our perspective and our food.
In other words, just as to create love we need our illusion, to maintain it, we need to be able to reinvigorate our decisions and our permanence.
We let our love explain itself, and our seeds grow freely. We allow our wings to fly and we offer our help to others to do so. We do not submit like slaves, because love is not that.
Finally, our roots must be free and our wings alive, they must radiate illusion and breathe confidence. Because at the end of the day, that’s the only way you can find meaning in what you feel.
