This Is How I Am: A Provocative, Incorrigible Woman Whom Many Find It Difficult To Endure
I am like this: a provocative, incorrigible woman whom many find it difficult to bear. I am the result of my efforts and my sufferings, for I have always refused to be a victim or a slave. What you see is all I am, it is me, naturally, unvarnished: a person who loves herself and, above all, loves life.
This full and authentic image of oneself is not developed at 20 or 30 years; Nowadays, we often hear about the power of 50-year-old women. Obviously, each age has its share of successes, conquests and beauties. However, when a woman approaches her 50s, most of her bonds and other patterns break, and she then realizes that she doesn’t have to be anyone’s “half” or soul mate. either to be happy.
“He who does not know how to howl will not find his flock.”
– Clarissa Pinkola Estés –
In addition, another interesting aspect that we hear more and more about is that of “the female alfa”. The female presence has already conquered many spaces that are exclusively reserved for men until not so long ago. Indeed, women are influential and they bring together the value, creativity and skills essential to found a business and create a more empathetic work environment in which they can energize their staff towards new goals.
However, and we all know it, the “female alfa” is not a product of the 21st century; in reality, we are heirs of a lineage. Woman has always been this silent and anonymous warrior. For example, we keep in mind our grandmothers, these admirable women who braided sadness on their hair and who gave everything to their children, their homes, their families.
Those courageous ladies who never complained and who, when they looked at their hands tanned by years and work, dreamed that one day their daughters would be what they were then: women who build their future with pride, and freely…
In many cultures, women are said to represent “the light of life”. However, this glow is not in her eyes, but in her ovaries; it is curious to see how, in the cultural roots of peoples all over the world, the figure of the woman is seen not only as “creator”, but also as a provocative entity.
As Robert Graves explains to us in his book The Celtic Myths: The White Goddess , both in ancient Mediterranean Europe and the Near East, there were many matriarchal cultures that worshiped a Supreme Goddess. This is a deity associated with the Moon who rose with his own light in front of the rest of the male gods. However, all these roots and other echoes of remarkable beauty disappeared when the patriarchy appeared and took hold.
The woman and her anthropological and cultural imprint dissipated from 400 BC. From there, we forced her to confine herself to private spaces, in silence and submission. However, the Great Goddess, provocative and full of mysteries, is not dead: she continued to exist secretly among many peoples. It has been passed down from generation to generation, from woman to woman, in the magical bond of the female legacy.
We whispered in silence that there had been a time when the woman was like the Moon, this archetype which advances and evolves through various cycles, various changes, which exerts a power over nature and which then feared this entity which represented male power: the Sun.
These days, times are challenging. All these cultural legacies that others wanted to keep silent still exist. These are testimonies that we can find today thanks to books such as Celtic myths: the White Goddess of Graves or even such as Women who run with wolves: stories and myths of the archetype of the wild woman of Clarissa Pinkola Estés. The woman knows that she is victorious, understands that her voice is strong, and that she can or even must challenge herself as well as challenge the world around her and in which she lives.
“I paint myself because I am the person I know best.”
– Frida Kahlo –
Let’s admit it; in the end, that moment always ends up happening. This day when we are tired of saying “yes” when what we want to say is “no”. Perhaps this feeling of full control does indeed occur when maturity itself is accepted. When we are no longer afraid of the passage of time, and we no longer consider loneliness as an enemy, but rather as a space for development, expansion and opportunities.
However, we know that sometimes the provocative woman is not well accepted. Like a magnetic drive that comes from the depths of the Earth and that lets go of its force to change reality. Such a thing is usually received with fear, because there is always a tendency to fear these changes aimed at renovating old cements.
Thus, women with a strong character are still viewed with suspicion. They are accused of being selfish simply on the pretext that they are firm in their convictions and in their values, or on the pretext that at some point in their life, they decide to think of themselves before thinking of others. Yet, whether we like it or not, we women are still those sorcerers, sometimes denied because of their gifts, but also jealous because of the many capacities at their disposal.
It doesn’t matter that we are so incorrigible, so true to our roots. It also doesn’t matter that some can’t stand us. We are what we are, proud people of our lineage. Heiresses of a provocative goddess, who seek to create their own paths in dignity as well as in happiness.
